I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good. Take a breath, stop and think, is it worth destroying so many lives so you can step in and take the rewards after someone else does the hard work. Heck his sleeps best with me on his chest. Would I have changed the course of my life. I love my husband with my whole soul. It's just not worth it to constantly be stressing over this and feeling dissatisfied with the way things are after we've been dating for this long. Not the end of the world. This can be a good way to learn more about your personalities. A lot of shared hobbies, interests, life goals.
We get along exceptionally well and I really like him though, so I can see this going somewhere. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. I would leave him note reminding him how important his work was. It is also considered disrespectful to others, as they may be uncomfortable because of your open displays. With his busy schedule, all of the household chores laundry, dishes, cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, bill paying, etc. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. Would she be okay with having a home that is split religiously.
It gives people a sense of purpose, while pressuring them to be 'good' by their book. What advice do you have for a newbie. All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem. Thank you so much, L. I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. It has just made me realize that these formulas a lot of us Mormons learn growing up about how to have a happy marriage are, well, crap. If you shift his way, be prepared for the social costs of inactivityвplus, if you really believe the doctrine, a crisis of faith. That's the difference - marrying for love vs marrying for a paycheck. All that being said, no one can tell you what is right for you except Heavenly Father. What if she absolutely despises sex.
I know, I know, this is the last thing you want to hear. Things have worked out pretty well with us so far. I don't know what to really do to find time to be with him. So while I believe that, in fact, non-celestial families still can be together forever, I also think that there must be great merit to qualifying for the whole Enchiladaвwhich I perhaps cannot fully appreciate at this time. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless.