So I used it like I would use my own. I clicked through the Explorer and came across his dissertation amid old college work folders. Ah, here we…oh, holy shit? In every other context it would be funny—here were images of overflowing breasts, pink and hairless vulva; a writhing torso flanked by bathtubs, messy beds and silk. Emailed photos.
Is it flattering, unethical, or just plain weird to keep nudes from lovers past?
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I've been split from my ex for 4 years; he has very embarrassing and explicit naked pics and a video which was taken without my consent. I'm worried he'll post them online and ruin my life and career. Shall I stop worrying as he hasn't posted them yet and we have had no contact and assume he won't or should I try to contact him to ask him to get rid of them or could that just flag up the control he has?
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Sarah Davies, 29, told police she became "a little bit evil" and wanted to "humiliate him a little bit" following their split. A mum shared two pictures of her ex-boyfriend naked in the bath on social media after discovering he had been using a dating website after they split. Sarah Davies, 29, posted the images after seeing her ex had set up a profile on Plenty of Fish following their short relationship.
Where do they go? And should you care if your ex still has your nudes? The answers are mixed. For some, like Cindy Gallop—founder of Make Love Not Porn, a NSFW video site dedicated to correcting porn-based myths about sex —keeping nudes from past lovers is a way to reminisce about good times from her past. In my case, I consider and I treat those nudes as just a really nice and entirely private personal reflection. I treat those nudes as just a really nice and entirely private personal reflection. After all, though nudes are raunchy by nature, they can also be really sweet. Though Olivarius litigates revenge porn cases, she very much understands the appeal of sending nudes despite the risks involved. Former lovers are former lovers for a reason. Revenge porn law, in states where it exists , generally only applies to the distribution of sexual images, not the keeping of sexual images by the person you sent them to.